That seems to be my life when it comes to relationships. I always seem to be put in the friend zone. Which i guess is better than nothing. But there are times that i actually do fall for a guy and yet never get past being friends. And its always the same thing, you're such an awesome girl, you've got a great sense of humor, you're so laid back. Seriously!? So what do guys want? Up-tight, never smiling, never joking back, nose stuck up in the air type of girls? If thats the case then heck yea we can be friends. I'm never gonna be that, ever!! But sadly now I have to deal with the its becuz you're a mom. I get some guys aren't ready for the whole kid thing and I try to keep dating and miles seperate. One i don't want Miles to grow up and thinking he knows what dating is becuz he's seen mommy date. And two unless we're seriously in a relationship my kid is not your concern. But again I can see how its hard to date a single mom and i only ask one thing. If you know i'm a mom and it kinda freaks you out don't pretend to want to date. Just be straight from the beginning. And don't assume I want to marry you. I bet you didn't even know i didn't want to be a mom. There are still days I struggle with it becuz this wasn't the life I wanted. At least not right now. But this is my life and i have kid. I didn't realize how my of my life would be taken away becuz of having a kid. I mean i knew i wouldn't be able to hang out with friends as much but the dating life didn't hit me until last night. So yea i cried about it but only becuz i never thought my kid would be the reason a guy wouldn't be with me. Its funny, a guy uses puppies and babies to get women all the time. But put a baby on a womans hip and guys run away. its sad too. Anyways I couldn't sleep so i had to get up and blog! Just another road block in life that i'll have to figure out how to remove. I just wish you would have given it a chance. I wish you have given me a chance. But i guess the what ifs are too big in your head and fear is too great. I'm still hoping you change your mind but I don't think you will. I will always be a friend, huh? That's cool.
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Firstly, you are amazing, and if a guy doesn't see you as dating material and wants to be 'just friends' it's probably because he thinks you'd be an 'easy' girlfriend. And as much as they bitch about it, some guys just want a stuck up snobby ass girl to boss them around and make they're life generally harder. It's like they think the girl is just playing hard to get? I don't know. Whatever.
Secondly, any guy who doesn't want to be with you because you have a kid, wasn't mature enough for you to begin with. I know you don't want to marry the guy, but your dating him because you want a serious relationship right? And that will turn into commitment and him being around and in your and Mile's life. SO, for that role, you do want a guy who's mature enough to know that a date is a date. And if he really likes you, he'll be in a little boys life. And if you stay together, he'll be a role model for that little boy. And know to take it one step at a time. I mean, if anything, Miles is thinning them out for you, lol. Do you really want to date a guy who thinks so low of himself, or is such a jerk, that he can't even see himself as a role model for a kid? Any sane person with a brain would know dating a single mom DOES NOT equal being a dad. Just sayin. :) Love you Mimi <3
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